I am on a plane back to nyc. I was just in Miami for 3 invigorating days and I feel like a different person. Everything about that trip was magical- to the places we hung out, to the people I met, to the weather that apparently hadn't been good until our arrival.
I often wonder what it is about vacation that makes everything feel aligned. It doesn't always happen honestly. But even when it's not magical, I usually find myself being a different version of myself.
Is it because we are free from our routine, our obligations, our responsibilities?
I am always astonished as to how I feel like a different person. More open. More friendly. More "throw caution to the wind", "fly by the seat of my pants" girl. I check my email/and social media close to never. It just doesn't seem important.
And upon every vacation and it's finale, I ask, often aloud, " is it possible to be on vacation all the time? Or at least have the mindset of being on vacation?"
If I feel more open and friendly in Miami, can I be aware and make a point to be more open and friendly in New York? If I don't like checking my social media, at least not to the point of it getting in the way of my vacation mindset, can I just do it less?
In theory, the answer is yes. Wouldn't you agree? In practice it's harder. Life catches up. Routines get boring. Ruts get comfortable.
The lack of new energy and new people perpetuates the cycle. Getting out, being friendly, and more open takes WORK. 😰 AND sometimes you're so used to it that you don't even notice that you're in a rut.
After being in Miami for 3 days, I am willing to bring my Miami state of mind back with me to New York and sustain it as long as I can.
It's a daily commitment. It's not "ok I'm back. Good feelings? STAY!,"and then I wave my magic wand and poof, they're part of my DNA.
If only it was that easy.
I also realize that being human, it's not likely that all days for all eternity are going to be "Paris in the springtime". But that's part of the human experience.
I',reading a book by Gay Hendricks called “The Big Leap” and he suggests we all have an internal thermostat for how much happiness, love, health, etc (our upper limit) we are able to handle and when we reach that upper limit, we trigger something to make sure we don't surpass the levels.
Like for example, we might get a raise at work, but then that night we start a fight with our significant other.
He suggests we can sustain feelings of "goodness" for longer, even ALL the Time, if we are aware of them.
Commitment is key.
What say you? Tell me some stories.