Have you ever heard this? That you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? It's something I heard many years ago and I have to admit I think about it very often.
It makes me think about the people I want to surround myself with. That if I want to be the best person I can be, I want to be around people that are the best they can be. I want to surround myself with people who up my game, and my average so to speak.
It's like learning any new skill. If you wanted to learn how to play tennis, you wouldn't go play with your 9 year old nephew. You'd take a lesson from Federer. Because he's super easy to reach and gives private lessons all the time:) You get my drift.
I'm bringing it up now because it's important. It's important to take stock on the people with whom you're hanging out (my mom would be so proud of the grammar in that sentence). Do they make you feel good? Do they drain your energy?
And yes, people, does that does include family. The interesting thing about family is that most of the time we believe we HAVE to hang around them and they have to be a big part of our lives.
Whereas I agree that family is important and I love my family, I do recognize that not all people have the best families. Some families or family members can be toxic. They can really put you down, or be unsupportive and just be plain unhealthy for your well-being.
If that is the case in where you are, the first step is actually realizing that that is what's happening. After you leave this person, do you feel horrible about yourself? Has your attitude shifted?
If you do find that your thoughts turn all negativo after being around this person, I suggest taking a step back and moving towards finding people who do the opposite. Who make you feel awesome, energized and supported. They do exist. I promise.
And if you have a loving family, try to find a "friend family" who lifts you up. Who ups your average.
My goal is to surround myself with very professional, fun and driven people so that my average goes way up. I've found that hanging out with other artists who are doing similar things, makes me feel more grounded and supported. People who get the ins and outs of following your dreams.
Do this: Next time you are feeling icky, take stock. Did you just leave a friend's house? Have a conversation with a family member? Did it make you feel drained? Elated? If you're having a hard time figuring it out, take it to paper. Free-write for 10 minutes (and set a timer!) to see what pops up. Putting pen to paper is a great way of sorting through thoughts and emotions.
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Remember, we are all in this together. Someone might really need to hear the insight that you have. Don't keep it to yourself.
All my family love,
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